Accepting My Opinion

Mid July.  It was the second last day of a seven-day rock climbing and mountaineering course in Jasper.  A couple of my classmates broached with me the idea of paying tips to our instructors.  I declined to participate.  Despite that I liked our instructors very much, learned a lot from them and appreciated their answering all the questions I […]

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Accepting My Height

A friend sent me this photo, which was taken by a stranger in the parking lot at Metcalf Rock after this group of us spent a day rock climbing there last Sunday.  I looked at this photo and was shocked to notice how short I am!  That day, all day, I never felt my climbing […]

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Accepting My Looks

I must be able to love myself first before I can expect someone else to fall in love with me. The first step to fall in love with myself is to accept myself unconditionally, warts and all. Here are three pictures of my face: front, front with glasses, side profile. I love how I have […]

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Love Is Possible

Some years ago, frustrated that I couldn’t find Mr. Right, I dreamed about the possibility of putting a huge personal ad in the world.  It just downed on me that with the internet tool, this dream can be turned into a reality.

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Giving to My Community

A few years back I was chair of and actively organizedevents for the Toronto Tongzhi Club (TTC)– a Mandarin speaking gay men’s club in Toronto.  Many gay men from China met through this club.  Some of them developed long-term relationships.  Tonight I will attend a celebration event by a couple who have been together for 5 […]

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Internalized Racism

Police man Vu Pham was fatally shot by a retired politician Fred Preston on a rural road when Pham pulled over a truck driven by Preston.  When I first read the news and saw the picture of the Pham’s Asian face, a strange thought flashed in my head for a nanosecond: could it be possible that Pham had done to provoke Preston?   It turned […]

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I am more Chinese than Canadian

When watching the Chinese women’s curling team and the Chinese pair figure skating team competing in the Winter Olympics, I realized that I cared more about them wining and less about Canadian teams’ wining.  This is probably because I felt that a Chinese win would help boost my positive image in public as people around […]

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Enjoyment is Key Ingrediant in Success

John Tory, the leader of Ontario’s Conservative Party lost in a provincial by-election on March 5, 2009 as he attempted to win a seat in the Ontario legislature after he failed to win a seat in the 2007 provincial election.  He basically resigned from politics the next day.   Some people interpret his resignation as a failure.  He […]

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Give Peace A Chance

I was listening to John Lennon’s album tonight and I thought about the over 1000 people killed in Gaza lately. “Imagine there is no religion…”  John Lennon wrote this song in 1971, when there was no mp3, DVD, CD or cassette playing music. Over the past three decades, technology has evolved quickly.  Yet humanity seems to be […]

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Celebrating the Idea of Celebration

Celebration of Christmas on December 25th, the New Year on December 31st, Russian Christmas on January 7th, and the Chinese New Year on January 26, 2009 is, after all, celebrations of ideas. Santa Clause is an idea.  Christ was not born on December 25th, but somehow some Christians liked the idea of celebrating the birth in December.  For […]

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