Xiaoping Li

I must be able to love myself first before I can expect someone else to fall in love with me. The first step to fall in love with myself is to accept myself unconditionally, warts and all. Here are three pictures of my face: front, front with glasses, side profile. I love how I have [...]

Some years ago, frustrated that I couldn’t find Mr. Right, I dreamed about the possibility of putting a huge personal ad in the world.  It just downed on me that with the internet tool, this dream can be turned into a reality.

A few years back I was chair of and actively organizedevents for the Toronto Tongzhi Club (TTC)– a Mandarin speaking gay men’s club in Toronto.  Many gay men from China met through this club.  Some of them developed long-term relationships.  Tonight I will attend a celebration event by a couple who have been together for 5 [...]

I can’t believe that I will be voting for the Conservatives in this coming federal election!  It will be a practical, rather than an idealogical, vote, because the Conservatives promised to allow self-employeed people like me to have parental leave. Yes, I did voted against the Conservatives when they tried to revert the same-sex marriage [...]

I was in Zlin, a small city in the Czech Republic, for 10 days.  I saw about twelve Asians and one black person there.  A city of white people.  I didn’t notice any white man particularly attractive until the day before my departure when I interacted with a young sales man in a store that sold climbing equipment.  On top of his good looks, [...]

Today, after climbing at Kelso, I sat in my car in the parking lot to log the routes I had lead with traditional gear in the climbing guide book that lists the climbing routes in Ontario.  Thirteen years ago, I met a gay climber through the Crag Crux Climbers group I had started in the gay [...]

Today, for the first time I saw a natural live birth of a little human being in a home environment on a TV program produced jointly in Quebec and Ontario.  As I saw the baby coming out head first and then the shoulders and then the whole body, I remembered the scenes I had seen in TV [...]

I remember the first time I saw nudist men in the gay pride parade in Toronto years ago, I felt uncomfortable.  The mainstream media was quite averse to them and the local gay media even argued that they shouldn’t be allowed in the next parade so that a cleaner and more representable image of the LGBT [...]

Seattle Otters had only five water polo players – some were straight – attending the IGLA 2001 tournament in Toronto.  Lisa and I, two neophytes in Toronto, joined them.  Seven players.  No substitute.  Lisa and I could barely float after the first day of the tournament.  The second day, our competing teams played us six-on-six, so [...]

1. Algonquin, My Dear Algonquin 2. Mama (Chinese) 3. Alien, Take Me 4. Baba, Please Come Back (Chinese) 5. Fear, Fear, Fear 6. A Lonely Hear 7. Sister 8. That Beautiful River Xiang (Chinese) 9. Lost 10. Music 11. Love Your Fellow Man 12. Love Knows No Boundaries (Chinese) 13. Mama, Let Me Realize Your Dreams (Chinese) [...]